What matters

Met up with some old CF friends recently, most of them had graduated. What amazed me was that though we weren't really buddies back while all of us were still studying (yea, I still am studying *sigh*), but leaving MMU and growing up made us all closer.

One of them said that he was really amazed at how I managed to survive and yet improve a lot from the last time he met me (It was true that I went through a hard period of time in MMU and life, but thank God it's over) He even apologised for how some people were in CF then. I guess it happens. Crap happens here and there. Sometimes there are just some people that won't get along with you, no matter what you do. But as long as you've made the effort, isn't that what matters most?

Looking back, the Christian Fellowship was a place I met and made meaningful friendships. Even though I had my gang of friends then, but nowadays, it's harder to talk to them now than the friends I served with in the CF. It's always so much easier to relate when you talk about God, church, ministry and what's God currently teaching you. Somehow, relating on a Christian level gives us an instant bond of brotherhood. Unlike this, meeting up my old gang of MMU buddies, conversation would range from job, money, house and life partner. And sometimes corny jokes on chicks, heh.

Guess I'll end here. What matters? Not the crappy people that reject you or ignore you (heh, or me for this case), but people whom after graduation, you could still look to them as friends, buddies and brothers. People whom you can call for a drink and a chat at some mamak to catch up on old times. We sometimes don't realise how much others mean to us until we graduate and don't see them anymore. When they're around, we quarrel, squibble and get frustrated with them, or maybe them with us.

Isn't life too short for hating someone? And compared to the cruel world out there, it's always just minor things in CF that make people pissed off with each other and quarrel. Grow up dudes! *sigh*

God Bless~

Just Friends?

Was out in Serdang yesterday, when we paid Yuet Pei a visit. Yuet Pei is a dear old friend, a very nice person and also a babe (Heh, she always claims that she's the best 'product' Kampar ever produced *ehem ehem*) Known her ever since we entered MMU. She was my neighbour, my regular makan kaki and the chick that a lot of guys wanted to be with (yea, even non Christian ones, you should have seen the fan club outside the house during her 18th b'day)

As dear and close as we are, we're just good friends, platonic friends, nothing more. Which brings me to the topic, Can guys just be friends with gurls? What's with being attached to the 1st gurl (or guy, if u're a gurl) you've got to know better and are attracted to? Heck, some people don't even know the other person when they 1st start dating.

And do we have to try to get attached to the 1st person we find attractive? It sometimes irks me to see people thinking in such narrow minded ways. And what happens when they find that their girlfriend are not really that 'ngam' with them? Heh, they break up.

Isn't it so much easier to be friends 1st without any romantic attachments involved? There's so much less pressure of having to try to impress her and being someone you're not. After all, she'll get to know the real you one day or another. And gone is the awkwardness of trying to make conversation, good conversation.

Anyways, another thing that irks me is the fact that at university level, there are still some people who would go around teasing a guy being friends with a girl. Such teasing makes situations awkward for both guy and gal, and I guess it either drives people apart (for the fear of being teased, and this usually happens) or closer. Mebbe the people who go around teasing actually has personal interest in that girl and do not like other people to get to know her better? I dunno..*sigh* Why can't they start talking to her instead of teasing?

Once you've reached my age, you'll actually see things from a different perspective. Teasing and gossiping about these becomes childish pursuits that are irritating. Do you actually see people in their mid twenties teasing a guy who's friends with a girl?

Anyway, to sum it up, Is your girlfriend (or the person you're attracted to) someone you can relate to, share with, do things with and spend mundane time with? It's something I learnt from a dear girl-friend.

Last but not least, to the girls that I've been learning from, lepaking around with and made life in MMU so much more colorful, in no particular order of significance:

Yuet Pei, Michelle Ding, Melisa Ann, Charis Liew, Sarah Lee, Connee Lim, Tan Chern Yen & You Jane'nette

Thanks again

Rock Kangkang

Heh, was reading through my church mate's friendster profile when i found it was really funny.

Check this out

Favorite Music: Blues, Jazz, Country, alternative rock, gospel, rock kangkang, rock kapak

Now, can someone tell me what's rock kangkang and rock kapak?

Saliva wonders

Wow, nowadays they can find you through your saliva! Check out the following

HONG KONG: A thief smeared half-chewed chocolate onto a businessman as a diversion so that his accomplices could steal the victim’s money, a newspaper reported yesterday.

But Freddy Horta Espitia, a 31-year-old Colombian, was caught and convicted after authorities matched his DNA with samples from the chocolate stains left on the man’s clothing, South China Morning Post reported. – AP

Heartbreaks

Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted Matthew 5:4

Recently, some people I known have been going through heartbreaks and heartaches. Valentine's day only served to make things worse. Sometimes, we question why God actually allows us to go through these things. Is God being unfair? Is God even there?

What do I know about this? Yea, I might not have been attached, but she was a close friend (to melah, I dunno what she thought of me) that we both were able to just sit and enjoy talking for hours. Never was I close to another girl since standard 5, where Sook Yee was my best friend. She (not Sook Yee) was your everyday plain Jane, had japanese eyes and a huge nose (not that there's anything bad with it) with a tomboy attitude to match. Someone no chick-looking-guys would do a double take. However, getting to know her better, it was really fun to hang out with her and banter around teasing her. She was the one who brought me to church when I had backslidded for 3 years.

However, things happened. Mostly my fault, my insecurities and stupidity. And then, more things happened. It became hard to even attend church. We still attended the same church, but she (and her group of friends) and me just became strangers. Many times, it was hard to go to church, and even harder when I get home. Only God knew how many times I cried while playing Heart of Worship (the only song I knew how to play then) . I kept asking God whether was it ok for me to change church, but God kept sending people to tell me to stay on, no matter how hard it was.

Yea, though it happened 4 years ago and I've since been attending another church, but God has moulded me there. Worship became more than just words on a nice song. It became a meeting point with God to unload my burdens and hurts and rejections. God became REAL.

Has God been REAL to you? Or is your hurts just eating you up that you don't wish to live another day? Come, let's all surrender everything we're going through to God (Yea, even if she's the most chun chick you've ever met) God Bless.

Psalms 71:14-24
But I will hope continually, And will praise You yet more and more.
My mouth shall tell of Your righteousness And Your salvation all the day, For I do not know their limits.
I will go in the strength of the Lord God; I will make mention of Your righteousness, of Yours only.
O God, You have taught me from my youth; And to this day I declare Your wondrous works.
Now also when I am old and grayheaded, O God, do not forsake me, Until I declare Your strength to this generation, Your power to everyone who is to come.
Also Your righteousness, O God, is very high, You who have done great things; O God, who is like You? You, who have shown me great and severe troubles, Shall revive me again, And bring me up again from the depths of the earth.
You shall increase my greatness, And comfort me on every side.
Also with the lute I will praise you-- And Your faithfulness, O my God! To You I will sing with the harp, O Holy One of Israel.
My lips shall greatly rejoice when I sing to You, And my soul, which You have redeemed.
My tongue also shall talk of Your righteousness all the day long; For they are confounded, For they are brought to shame Who seek my hurt.

Idiot

Was amused reading this on the Star newspaper


Here's the highlights:
"He said the one-day trip was worthwhile as he had accomplished three goals – his dream, and celebrating the birthday and Valentine's Day.

Birthday girl Yeap said that although her friends had anticipated that Ooi would be giving her a surprise, she did not expect such a big bouquet.

“This is something different and I’m happy that I’m celebrating my birthday with my good friends from college,” she said.

Yeap said that although she already had a boyfriend, she appreciated Ooi’s gift."

Man, what a waste of perfectly good money. And to think of it, he knew she was attached. *Sigh* idiot

Did u notice?

Today's Valentine's day. But did you notice that yesterday was Friday the 13th? Heh, bet most of you didn't. (hmm, neither did I until someone told me yesterday)

Now, do you know of anyone who bought garlics, crosses and dracula warding items? Heh, I wonder...

Skirt Wearing Brethren

Recently, a group of us (calling ourselves LAWN, after the 1st alphabet of our names) composed a song for the skirt wearing brethrens of the Christian Fellowship in MMU. It was played during our Valentine's celebration, aptly named 'Brothers Sisters Appreciation Day' (more like Sisters bashing day though with all the starch, ice and mismatched fruit juices)

What was really catchy was the chorus part of the song, that we named More than Games to me

What you are,
What we think,
Doesn't seem to fit in.

But we believe,
You're God's gift,
You are more than games to me.

Heh, actually, it's been a pleasure to know you girls in CF. Life would be so much more boring without you all (Nah, I'm not saying this to get a date or a chick) God Bless and Happy Valentine's day

Valentine's Day

It's one day to Valentine's day. For all you (desparate) people, it's a time to find someone to date. This reminded me of this particular chick I got to know recently.

She's from Ipoh and plays really good keyboards, had silky long hair and a killer smile to match. Most of all, she had the personality and attitude (yea, it was fun to banter around with her). And to top it all, she's a PK (Pastor's Kid)! Not like that mattered that much though...

However, our (yea, not only me) celebrations was cut short when found out she was already taken *Sighhh* Why do all the single chicks seem to be taken up so fast? Anyway, that guy is a lucky guy (i hope)

p/s: For all you who think you know who she is, ahah, you've got it wrong. She's in form 6!

Cats & Dogs

Ever wondered the differences between cats and dogs? Check this out.

Grammys

The 46th Grammy awards just passed with it's usual share of beautiful people, nice dresses, controversial dresses and of course winners! And guess what? Album of the year was won by

Outkast!


Unbelievably, undenialbly, unrepentantly, but rather interestingly...

Matrix Overdose

If by chance, you do study in MMU and own a car, take the opportunity to drive out to the exit at the MMU guard house while it's raining. There you'll be greeted with black trenchcoat wearing security guards that look like Mafias of the old Boston era, or if you might agree, Agent Smiths

Nah, it's just my imagination,. But they really look cool! Now, if we could give them Ray Ban sunglasses and proper coats and a bald head and a sly grin... and ... and .... Ah! Matrix overdose!

Mind Bending

Was at Mines when we were walking past Nando's. Just that moment, a Nando's staff strolled out to close the shop. What bended my mind was what was written on her shirt. It was:

"Chick Rules"
Now, what kinda chick was the shirt referring to? (it could by chance be referring to the nando's chicken)

Duty

Don't usually do this, but I'm putting a link to a flash today. Just saw this flash that was on the forwarded msges. It starts with Christ asking a boy, 'Could you guard this post (the cross) until I return? When people see this, they'll know where I've gone' and thus, the flash begins...

It reminds me of how Christ had gave us the commandment "You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men. You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven."

How are we actually fulfilling our so called CHRIST-ianity? Do our friends actually see Christ and the fruits of the Spirit in us? Or do we come accross as condesending and judgemental (like modern day Pharisees) or the other extreme: loose, lacking self-control, lustful & foul etc? Let us all (including me) examine our lives dailly and make it a living sacrifice for Christ

As a famous saying went "My life is Christ's gift to me. What I do dailly with it is my gift back to Christ" God Bless.

Chap Goh Meh

Today is Chap Goh Meh. Meaning it's the 15th day of CNY. All you broke people (dunno how you spend your money, what's this la? It's just the beginning of the month!) , go and collect your oranges from swimming pools and longkangs nearby (as food supply for the week). It also no swimming especially if u stay at Cyberia. I'm sure we're going to get bombarded with oranges from the girls while swimming in the pool. (man, some girls are going to be anti-Leo from now on)

Now, wonder how much can I sell recycled oranges for?

Modesty

Read this really good article on the net. It spoke much about purity and dressing. Here's an excerpt:

“Every man wants the woman to see him as a prince,” she continues. “And there is more to a prince than base human desires. What do you inspire? You don’t want a man to just use you for sex, you want a man to share his whole life with you. Men like women that inspire them to be more. A prince will always come looking for a princess.”

Dress plays a big role in this process. Girls always ask Lisa how much skin they can show. Through her seminars and her book Kissed the Girls and Made them Cry, Lisa gives girls an alternative to the strength of seduction offered by Calvin Klein and Tommy Hilfiger — she offers them the power of purity.

“Modesty is not just about covering up, it's how you present yourself,” she insists. “Beautiful women inspire men to be princes. Something speaks to a man when a girl looks like she is protected.”

She points out women’s magazines like Glamour promise to make girls into sex toys. There is nothing of integrity, wisdom or virtue in these publications.

“When you appeal on a sexual level, men respond on a sexual level,” she says. “Undressed women do not inspire men to protect them; they inspire men to conquer them. You can be fashionable without being fashioned into an image of this world.”


How about you? What is your stand? God Bless~

Your cuppa tea?

Was browsing the net when I found someone put this up on his website

'If a lady friend I find physically attractive (Body Mass Index <20, top 5% world-class beauty) isn't also bright (IQ >130), articulate and someone I can trust and talk to, I'm not interested. The ladies I'm seeking need to possess, above all, sincerity and candour, and be neither pretentious nor ostentatious. Empathy and compassion would be appreciated, too. You should be very open with your feelings as the foundation of intimacy is truth.'

Man, some people just need to be more realistic

Relationships

During world war 2, doctors identified a fatal and mysterious disease they called marasmus. It was discovered in a group of orphaned babies who were placed in a care facility with brightly colored toys, new furniture and good food. In spite of the pleasant accomodations, however, the health of these children rapidly deteriorated. They soon stopped playing with the new toys and gradually lost their appetites. Their tiny system weakened, becoming lethargic and wearing down. Some children died.

When word got out, United Nations doctors were flown in to make a diagnosis and treat the children. After only a short time of investigation, the doctors made a simple prescription, curing the prolem within day: For ten minutes each hour, all children were to be picked by a nurse, hugged, kissed, played with and talked to. With this simple prescription, the little ones brightened, their appetites returned and they once again played with their toys. Their 'marasmus' was cured.

Was reading a section in the book 'Relationships' by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott when I was struck by this article (erm, the book is not a BGR book ok? )How true it is that all us have a longing to be wanted, accepted, enjoyed and loved. None is too big, strong, talented and tough to go without belonging. To belong is not just about feeling warm and accepted, but it's a life and death issue, like the article on the babies.

Research had shown that adults who not cultivate nurturing relationships (by being in isolation) have are more likely to die at a comparatively young age than those who cultivate companionship. God never did create a man to be an island by himself.

Thus, on this topic, I thank God for the Christian Fellowship here in Cyberjaya and for the church where I find friends to crap around with, to jam around with and to belong. It's been a far cry from the days of New Life, where it was so hard to belong. I was just 'the loser who could not fit in' *Sigh*

Now, if only God could put in a few single chicks in church, it would be perfect. (Yea right, if onlyla)

Samurai

Went to watch the Last Samurai last week with some friends. It was a thought provoking movie that was also high on the coolness factor. So cool it was that our crazy bunch had some crazy ideas. Here's a rough snippet:

'Wah! Really cool ar the movie!'
'Yea, the Samurai very chun ar!'
'Hmm, after this we all go get samurai costume yea'
'Yea, together with the headgear and all'
'Especially with the headgear, haha, so cool'


Haven't watch it? What are you waiting for? Go get ur tickets now~!